What is true is already so.
Owning up to it doesn't make it worse.
Not being open about it doesn't make it go away.
And because it's true, it is what is there to be interacted with.
Anything untrue isn't there to be lived.
People can stand what is true,
for they are already enduring it.

- Eugene Gendlin -

Cheers!

"As every strength may become a weakness (and under some circumstances must) so, on the contrary, may the typical suicide find a strength and a support in his apparent
weakness. Indeed, he does so more often than not. The case of Harry, the Steppenwolf,
is one of these. As thousands of his like do, he found consolation and support, and not merely the melancholy play of youthful fancy, in the idea that the way to death was open to him at any moment. It is true that with him, as with all men of his kind, every shock, every pain, every untoward predicament at once called forth the wish to find an escape in death. By degrees, however, he fashioned for himself out of this tendency a philosophy that was actually serviceable to life. He gained strength through familiarity with the thought that the emergency exit stood always open, and became curious, too, to taste his suffering to the dregs. If it went too badly with him he could feel sometimes with a grim malicious pleasure: "I am curious to see all the same just how much a man can endure. If the limit of what is bearable is reached, I have only to open the door to escape." There are a great many suicides to whom this thought imparts an uncommon strength.

On the other hand, all suicides have the responsibility of fighting against the
temptation of suicide. Every one of them knows very well in some corner of his soul that suicide, though a way out, is rather a mean and shabby one, and that it is nobler and finer to be conquered by life than to fall by one's own hand. Knowing this, with a morbid conscience whose source is much the same as that of the militant conscience of so-called self-contented persons, the majority of suicides are left to a protracted struggle against their temptation. They struggle as the kleptomaniac against his own vice. The Steppenwolf was not unfamiliar with this struggle. He had engaged in it with many a change of weapons. Finally, at the age of forty-seven or thereabouts, a happy and not unhumorous idea came to him from which he often derived some amusement. He appointed his fiftieth birthday as the day on which he might allow himself to take his own life. On this day, according to his mood, so he agreed with himself, it should be open to him to employ the emergency exit or not. Let happen to him what might, illness, poverty, suffering and bitterness, there was a time-limit. It could not extend beyond these few years, months, days whose number daily diminished. And in fact he bore much adversity, which previously would have cost him severer and longer tortures and shaken him perhaps to the roots of his being, very much more easily. When for any reason it went particularly badly with him, when peculiar pains and penalties were added to the desolateness and loneliness and savagery of his life, he could say to his tormentors: "Only wait, two years and I am your master." And with this he cherished the thought of the morning of his fiftieth birthday. Letters of congratulation would arrive, while he, relying on his razor, took leave of all his pains and closed the door behind him. Then gout in the joints, depression of spirits, and all pains of head and body could look for another victim."

Hermann Hesse - Steppenwolf

"Só uma vez fui verdadeiramente amado. Simpatias, tive-as sempre, e de todos. Nem ao mais casual tem sido fácil ser grosseiro, ou ser brusco, ou ser até frio para comigo. Algumas simpatias tive que, com auxílio meu, poderia – pelo menos talvez – ter convertido em amor ou afeto. Nunca tive paciência ou atenção do espírito para sequer desejar empregar esse esforço.

A princípio de observar isto em mim, julguei – tanto nos desconhecemos – que havia neste caso da minha alma uma razão de timidez. Mas depois descobri que não havia; havia um tédio das emoções, diferente do tédio da vida, uma impaciência de me ligar a qualquer sentimento contínuo, sobretudo quando houvesse de se lhe atrelar um esforço prosseguido. Para quê? pensava em mim o que não pensa. Tenho a sutileza bastante, o tato psicológico suficiente para saber o “como”; o “como do como” sempre me escapou. A minha fraqueza de vontade começou sempre por ser uma fraqueza da vontade de ter vontade. Assim me sucedeu nas emoções como me sucede na inteligência, e na vontade mesma, e em tudo quanto é vida.

Mas daquela vez em que uma malícia da oportunidade me fez julgar que amava, e verificar deveras que era amado, fiquei, primeiro, estonteado e confuso, como se me saíra uma sorte grande em moeda inconvertível. Fiquei, depois, porque ninguém é humano sem o ser, levemente envaidecido; esta emoção, porém, que pareceria a mais natural, passou rapidamente. Sucedeu-se um sentimento difícil de definir, mas em que se salientavam incomodamente as sensações de tédio, de humilhação e de fadiga. De tédio, como se o Destino me houvesse imposto uma tarefa em serões desconhecidos. De tédio, como se um novo dever – o de uma horrorosa reciprocidade – me fosse dado com a ironia de um privilégio, que eu me teria ainda que maçar, agradecendo-o ao Destino. De tédio, como se me não bastasse a monotonia inconsistente da vida, para agora se lhe sobrepor a monotonia obrigatória de um sentimento definido.

E de humilhação, sim, de humilhação. Tardei em perceber a que vinha um sentimento aparentemente tão pouco justificado pela sua causa. O amor a ser amado deveria ter-me aparecido. Deveria ter-me envaidecido de alguém reparar atentamente para a minha existência como ser-amável. Mas, à parte o breve momento de real envaidecimento, em que todavia não sei se o pasmo teve mais parte que a própria vaidade, a humilhação foi a sensação que recebi de mim. Senti que me era dada uma espécie de prêmio destinado a outrem – prêmio, sim, de valia para quem naturalmente o merecesse.

Mas fadiga, sobretudo fadiga – a fadiga que passa o tédio. Compreendi então uma frase de Chateaubriand que sempre me enganara por falta de experiência de mim mesmo. Diz Chateaubriand, figurando-se em René, “amarem-o cansava-o” – on le fatigait en l’aimant. Conheci, com pasmo, que isto representava uma experiência idêntica à minha, e cuja verdade portanto eu não tinha o direito de negar.

A fadiga de ser amado, de ser amado deveras! A fadiga de sermos o objeto do fardo das emoções alheias! Converter quem quisera ver-se livre, sempre livre, no moço de fretes da responsabilidade de corresponder, da decência de se não afastar, para que se não suponha que se é príncipe nas emoções e se renega o máximo que uma alma humana pode dar. A fadiga [de] se nos tornar a existência uma coisa dependente em absoluto de uma relação com um sentimento de outrem! A fadiga de, em todo o caso, ter forçosamente que sentir, ter forçosamente, ainda que sem reciprocidade, que amar um pouco também!"

Fernando Pessoa - O Livro do Desassossego

"My anxieties as to behavior are futile, ever more so, to infinity. If the other, incidentally or negligently, gives the telephone number of a place where he or she can be reached at certain times, I immediately grow baffled: should I telephone or shouldn't I? (It would do no good to tell me that I can telephone - that is the objective, reasonable meaning of the message - for it is precisely this permission I don't know how to handle.) What is futile is what apparently has and will have no consequence. But for me, an amorous subject, everything which is new, everything which disturbs, is received not as a fact but in the aspect of a sign which must be interpreted. From the lover's point of view, the fact becomes consequential because it is immediately transformed into a sign: it is the sign, not the fact, which is consequential (by its aura). If the other has given me this new telephone number, what was that the sign of? Was it an invitation to telephone right away, for the pleasure of the call, or only should the occasion arise, out of necessity? My answer itself will be a sign, which the other will inevitably interpret, thereby releasing, between us, a tumultuous maneuvering of images. Everything signifies: by this proposition, I entrap myself, I bind myself in calculations, I keep myself from enjoyment.

Sometimes, by dint of deliberating about "nothing" (as the world sees it), I exhaust myself; then I try, in reaction, to return -- like a drowning man who stamps on the floor of the sea -- to a spontaneous decision (spontaneity: the great dream: paradise, power, delight): go on, telephone, since you want to! But such recourse is futile: amorous time does not permit the subject to align impulse and action, to make them coincide: I am not the man of mere "acting out" -- my madness is tempered, it is not seen; it is right away that I fear consequences, any consequence: it is my fear - my deliberation - which is "spontaneous."

Roland Barthes - A Lover's Discourse: Fragments

Now they're finally here and you what they're looking for,
With their empty grins they proceed in taking what you owe,
And you move your lips but the words they just fall to the floor,
So this is how it ends?

Crawl to the mirror and see all that you've become,
A grim reflection of all the things that you have done,
You try to weep but no tears have or will ever come,
So this is who you are?

"I gather at the heels in one more stand
Briars at the feet, flower in hand
The delicate world that wrapped around
The disparate soul that it surrounds
Along, within, and through the years
As stray as they never knew the way
Allay the doubt, subdue the fear
Afraid they never knew your name"

"'I live because the mountains do not laugh and the worms do not sing.' The passion for the absurd can grow only in a man who has exhausted everything, yet is still capable of undergoing awesome transfigurations. For one who has lost everything there is nothing left in life except the passion of the absurd. What else in life could still move such a person? What seductions? Some say: selfsacrifice for humanity, the public good, the cult of the beautiful, and so forth. I like only those people who have done away with all that—even for a short time. Only they have lived in an absolute manner. Only they have the right to speak about life. You can recover love or serenity. But you recover it through heroism, not ignorance. An existence which does not hide a great madness has no value. How is it different from the existence of a stone, a piece of wood, or something rotten? And yet I tell you: you must hide a great madness in order to want to become stone, wood, or rot. Only when you have tasted all the poisoning sweetness of the absurd are you fully purified, because only then will you have pushed negation to its final expression. And are not all final expressions absurd?"

E. M. Cioran - On the Heights of Despair

"I've never been lonely. I've been in a room - I've felt suicidal. I've been depressed. I've felt awful - awful beyond all - but I never felt that one other person could enter that room and cure what was bothering me... Or that any number of people could enter that room.

In other words, loneliness is something I've never been bothered with because I've always had this terrible itch for solitude. It's being at a party, or at a stadium full of people cheering for something, that I might feel loneliness. I'll quote Ibsen, "The strongest men are the most alone." I've never thought, "Well, some beautiful blonde will come in here and give me a fuck-job, rub my balls, and I'll feel good." No, that won't help. You know the typical crowd, "Wow, it's Friday night, what are you going to do? Just sit there?" Well, yeah. Because there's nothing out there. It's stupidity. Stupid people mingling with stupid people. Let them stupidify themselves. I've never been bothered with the need to rush out into the night. I hid in bars, because I didn't want to hide in factories. That's all.

Sorry for all the millions, but I've never been lonely. I like myself. I'm the best form of entertainment I have. Let's drink more wine!"

- Charles Bukowski